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Tried Cougar Dating & I Never Looked Back Again

The first time I went on a date with a guy who is younger than me was 3 years ago. I was just separated from my ex-husband at the time and was really depressed. My husband and I had been married for more than 10 years before we got the divorce.

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The economy was really suffering at the time and I had to move to Sydney to pursue a job that paid better and then sent the money back home. I fully trusted my ex-husband and could never believe that he would cheat on me. However, as we live separately, things begin to change. Eventually, I discovered he had an affair with my best friend! How hurtful could that be! I was depressed that I could barely step out of the bedroom. But eventually, we got a divorce, and I have to say that it is one of the hardest times in my life.

Maria, You Need to Try Online Dating!

I have a 10-year-old boy with my ex-husband and he live with me after the divorce. It felt so lonely living alone in a house where you used to have happy memories with your ex. Anyway, as a business consultant, finally I decided to be strong and get myself out of this depression. I went out more with my close friends, and one of them said: "Maria! You need to try online dating. Don't sit alone in an empty house and suffer like that!". Honestly I didn’t believe a thing about online dating, but out of courtesy I just signed up for a dating site that she recommended.

Getting Flirts From the Boys

After a few days, a lot of young hot-looking men messaged me. “Oh my god, what is happening?” - I asked myself. Some of them flirted right away when they sent me the first message. I was a bit annoyed and surprised at first, asking back: “Do you need a mom?”, to which they replied back straightaway: “No way!”. They proceeded to telling me how hot they think I look. Perplexed by their replies, I asked why would they think I looked hot. They said they were tired of women their age who were too high-maintenance and unstable. After a lot of thinking, I decided to go out with one young guy named Marcos because we got on really well while chatting.

On our first date, he took me to a romantic upscale Italian restaurant downtown. He was a tall good-looking young man who worked as a real estate agent. I was really impressed by his appearance. His personality was also very charming. Despite his young age (he was 30 while I was 43 at the time), he is very knowledgeable in many fields, and he had a good sense of humor too. We had a nice 3-course meal, then he took me to a nice bar where we danced till after midnight. Well, we ended the night with a kiss. I knew he wanted more than that, but I wasn't keen on sleeping with younger men the first time I met them.

How Marcos's Charm Won Me Over

The next day he texted me saying how much he had enjoyed the previous night and how beautiful he thought I was. I was so flattered by his compliments. Imagine being a 43-year-old divorcee and you still get compliments from young men who is well under your age and is surrounded by young hot women all the time. We decided to go out again next weekend. I loved the way he took care of me and tried to win me over. It made me feel youthful again. We didn't have sex till the sixth date. His body was so toned and beautiful, and he was so good in bed. I was blown away. I asked him if he minded my wrinkled skin and saggy breasts. He said he loved them. Up to that point, I could never understand why would a young man be attracted to a middle-aged woman with a saggy fatty body. It feels so great dating men younger than you who adore your body and can do anything to please you.

My love story with Marcos lasted for 5 months. He was the rebound lover that I needed to get over my depressing separation from my then husband. After the experience I had with Marcos, I no longer regarded cougar dating as something out of the question. I continued to go out with men younger than me and never looked back. The youngest man I have ever dated was a 23-year-old computer technician who was very aspiring about his job and helpful enough to fix my son's laptop and mobile whenever there was a problem. The sex was great, as younger men have a much higher stamina than older men. As a middle-aged woman, I feel so youthful dating them. All of my friends are very supportive and just want me to be happy. There may be people judging you, but I couldn't care less what other people say about who I should date. I also signed up for a few cougar dating sites to specifically meet men who are interested in older women, and overall the experience has been amazing and I have no intention of stopping anytime soon.

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