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5 Sexy and Secret Rules To Follow When Texting A Cougar

So, you want to be a cougar cub. Cougar dating is not for the faint of heart. But if you can nail these five rules, cougars will be falling for you left, right and centre.

The attraction between a younger woman and older man is an age-old attraction (no pun intended) that requires a special kind of attention. Older women are a complex creature, a kind of Sphinx-like puzzle that, when you can crack them, reveals a sweet center of pleasure that you can enjoy over and over again.

blonde cougar in black lacy lingerie
Cougars aren't like your usual dates - they require more effort

Younger guys who have been able to land a cougar find their relationship to be one of the most fulfilling of their lives because not only is the sex intense and constant, but they end up growing emotionally and mentally because their cougars demand a different level of involvement and maturity. To keep up with them, younger guys raise the bar for themselves and end up learning a lot — sexually and emotionally.

But to get to that stage, you’ve first got to set the initial stage: connecting and communicating to build that connection between you and that sexy cougar you’ve got your eye on. We’ve got the 5 definitive rules you’ll need to nail her — hook, line and sinker.

1. Start With A Little Bit O’ Wit…

Cougars are women who have been around the block before — and then some. They’ve seen every manner of man approach them and run away from them. All the lame lines you use with younger women are simply not going to cut it.

The best way to pique the interest of a cougar is to start with wit. Hearken back to the days where she was younger by throwing a couple of period references her way. Show her you’re more than a gorgeous body or a pretty face.

To catch her is one thing but to keep her will require you to start off with some wit. Keep the conversation like a flame that goes back and forth like a great game of verbal tennis.

The thing is, she craves your youthful energy but you’ve got to combine it with an innate sense of confidence and purpose. It’s so easy for her to dismiss you simply because of your age so getting her attention with wit makes you a cut above the crowd that is surely chasing this smokin’-hot lady.

2. …And Then Spice It Up With Sexting

Look, once you’ve got her attention, there’s no doubt she's going to want to know if you truly are the whole package. Here’s where you parlay your initial success into what she really wants: the chance for some steamy sexting.

Start off slow, with a couple of suggestive texts. Don’t make them creepy or conventional. You can send her a few visuals of your own. Skip the inappropriate pictures at first (unless she’s expressed an interest in that) and then slowly suggest she send a couple to you. Use language that’s forthcoming and flattering. Really turn on that charm — remember, on the one hand, you already have her and, on the other, you’ll still trying to set yourself apart in her eyes.

No need to work overtime on this: in other words, don’t spam her with the sexting. Keep it light and sporadic. If she engages (and she will, because these women are at the height of their sexual maturity and so sex is definitely on their mind), follow up and keep her interested. Weave a narrative if she’s that kind of lady.

3. The Physical Definitely Matters

The beauty and allure of a cougar is part natural genes and part work — she’s worked hard to keep her body in perfect shape and she cares about the way she looks. She enhances her natural and mature beauty with only the best products.

So take the time to appreciate all that natural beauty she flaunts along with the work she does to keep her body so tight and well-toned. The physical always matters, no matter how much your particular cougar lady might pretend its low on her list of priorities.

When she sends you those gorgeous and pouty photos, tell her in no uncertain what you like about them and what in particular turns you on about her, paying attention to her beauty and physicality. This is one arena that these women won’t mind being paid compliments.

4. Turn Her On By Turning It All Around

When you’re still in the texting phase you want to make it all about her. Asher about her fantasies and indulge in her secrets. Lightly hint that you can take it to the next level by playing these out in person if she’s game.

The point is not to bombard her with ridiculous photos and then a one-liner. Draw her out and it should read as though you're exploring her. Turn her on with these subtle moves and words and she’ll be all yours in no time, unable to resist the mix of your boyish charms but obviously smooth moves.

5. It’s All About Her

Look, this woman is like a story in itself. She's been through so many changes, so many transformations, heartbreaks, great loves and hurdles. There’s nothing that fazes her any more and that’s what is so intriguing about dating a cougar.

When you walk into a texting situation with these fine ladies, go in with this mindset. If you make your texts — or even your sexts, video chatting and picture exchanges — all about her and how much her history turns you on, you’ll be a keeper.

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