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The ABCs of Dating a Married Lesbian Cougar

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Anyone who has ever got themselves into a lesbian affair with a married woman knows that it can be a stressful experience. Aside from the fact that you are probably ruining their marriage, married lesbians often feel doubts about their sexuality, which can cause tension. It's even tougher when you are a cub and the married woman is a hot cougar, but it can be done.

Follow these pieces of advice, and your affair will stay healthy and risk-free.

1. Know What You Are Getting Yourself Into

This is the key piece of advice. Before you start an affair with a lesbian cougar, get real.

Don't assume that because she's horny in bed and lavishing you with attention (and money), she will always feel that way about you. Your fling may not be a permanent fixture in her life, and you might simply be thrilled by the idea of going behind the husband's back. Often, both parties drift apart when the cougar's marriage ends.

With the tension released, they move onto other experiences and partners. So don't get too involved. Throw yourself into the sexual side of things, but try to keep your emotions under control. This probably isn't "the one."

2. Take Your Partner's Sexuality Seriously

Even though it's not wise to get too serious when sleeping with a married lesbian, that doesn't mean you can take her lesbianism lightly. It's quite likely that she's totally on board with changing her lifestyle. You are her passport to a life free of men and conventional sexuality, and there's a chance you could become life partners.

So don't assume she's just a weekend lesbian or in it for kicks. She probably does want to restart her sex life, and she's almost certainly on course to torpedo her failing marriage. Don't try to talk her out of it. She'll do what she has to do.

3. Don't Alienate the Husband

When you start dating a married lesbian cougar, the husband's emotions couldn't be further from your mind, but it's not wise to forget about him entirely. Here's the strange thing about lesbian affairs: when guys find out, they often expect them and act in a sympathetic, even supportive manner.

For some reason, it's not the same as finding that their wife has been with another guy. They can also make it easier for you and your lover to stay together and build your own life, so don't talk him down (unless he's an absolute jerk) and try to get to know him if he reaches out. But don't try to rebuild their marriage for them. His wife almost certainly has no desire to go back, kids or not.

She's yours now, remember that!

4. Know When the Relationship Isn't For Real

A lot of the time, married lesbian cougars are just like other cougars - predatory, ruthless, and in it for themselves. They might seem to be completely into you. The sex could be amazing, for a while. The gifts could flow. But suddenly, she won't return your calls or she refers to you as a "friend", to others.

These are always a sign that your cougar partner is ready to cut you loose at a time that suits them. So be on your guard. If all you want is great sex, so be it, but don't get any romantic ideas unless you have total faith that they are reciprocated.

5. Be Ruthless About Ending Your Affair

When it's just not working out (and most affairs don't), it's up to you to break it off.

Don't let your cougar partner string you along, constantly telling you that she will break up with her husband next month, or making excuses about having holidays booked. No. Put your foot down. You might be an innocent little cub in bed, but it's your life and there are plenty of other cougars hunting for people like you.

Confront her and make her commit to leaving her husband or accept the fuck buddy relationship, but don't have any illusions.

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