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The Pros and Cons of a Big Age Gap in a Lesbian Relationship

When it comes to the benefits and drawbacks of a big age difference in a lesbian relationship, they’re pretty much the same as you’d find in a straight relationship.

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Chemistry is the most important factor to get all the benefits of a great relationship.

While the difference in age will lead to a few hiccups along the way, there will always be benefits to make up for them. Whether you are looking for a sexy lesbian cougar or a younger woman, it’s important to know what lies ahead before you enter into an inter-generational relationship.

There are several pros and cons to be aware of, and here are just a few of the most important.

The Pros

1. You get to experience new things

Both a lesbian cougar and her younger wife or girlfriend will be able to experience life from a completely different point of view. Younger lesbians will go to certain clubs and have a certain type of friendship group. A lesbian cougar, however, will be able to bestow the gift of knowledge and experience on her partner. The older person can relive their youth, and the younger might just learn a thing or two about life.

2. There’s no need to settle

Social convention makes some of us believe that we have to settle for a certain type of partner. A May December relationship takes away the barrier of age, so you can choose the person you have most in common with, rather than the person who is a similar age. Chemistry, and not looks or experience become the most important factor, and that has to be a good thing.

3. There are wider and more varied social circles to enjoy

Different generations like to mix with people who have different interests and hobbies. Entering into a relationship with a much older or younger woman will introduce you to a group of people you never usually get the chance to socialise with. This will give you a new outlook on life — and be the source of a lot of fun.

4. Financial stability

A lesbian cougar is likely to have progressed through her career. She is also likely to have learned from her past financial mistakes, and have a little cash in the bank. This could be a very stabilising influence on a younger woman who is still struggling with cash and finances.

The Cons

1. You will need to deal with even more prejudice

Despite society gradually becoming more accepting of same-sex relationships, there are still people who will mock and belittle lesbians in public. This is difficult enough to deal with without having to endure further discrimination and mockery because of the age difference between you both.

2. Personal sacrifices are inevitable

A lesbian cougar and a much younger woman will be at very different stages of their lives. The issues of career, children and money will mean different things to both women, which could cause friction. An element of compromise will be needed, and some sacrifices will need to be made. These sacrifices could also involve aspects of socialising. The younger woman may like to go clubbing three times a week, but the lesbian cougars may have more sedate pursuits in mind.

3. The worry of being exploited

A lesbian cougar being courted by a much younger woman may always have nagging doubts in her mind about the motives of her partner. There may be a worry that the younger woman is simply after the older’s cash. Similarly, the younger woman may be concerned that her cougar regards her as little more than eye candy.

4. Hopes for the future may be very different

Young women, quite rightly, often want to have fun. Some will have no ambitions beyond going out at the weekend and having a great time. Thinking about the future may not even be on the agenda. Compare that to a lesbian cougar who is a little closer to death. She will be thinking about the things she wants to accomplish or the places she wants to visit. Her priorities might involve financial planning, retiring or raising grandchildren. The way we think about our future changes considerably the older we get.

This difference in thought process will undoubtedly cause issues in an inter-generational relationship. Don’t get too hung up on the pros and cons of a relationship that entails a big age gap. The simple truth is that any relationship involves benefits and drawbacks. If you love and respect one another, all of the issues you face can be overcome.

Pros and cons of a age gap in lesbian relationship

A lesbian cougar and a younger woman can have a loving, respectful relationship despite the age gap. But there are pros and cons to be aware of.

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