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Having younger lovers saved my marriage!

Older women dating younger men – it's a phenomenon that's been around since ancient times. Even Louis XIV famously kept a devoted mistress who was older than he was. But I have to admit, the whole thing was news to me when I first discovered it about a year or two ago.

A sexy housewife smiling on the couch
Fiona found into Georgie a good friend with benefits

Now, I thank God every day that I live in an age where people can finally express their sexual desires and older women dating younger men isn't unusual at all. My name's Natalie and I'm 37. David and I thought we were doing all the right things growing up. We stayed in school, got our degrees and were both well established in our careers when we finally got engaged and then married. We put children on the back burner for the first few years but then had two only two years apart. I quit my job as an insurance administrator and only went back to part-time retail jobs once both kids were in school. Dave is a nice bloke and he's a good dad. But he's no demon in the bedroom! As time went by, our sexual routine went stale. The problem wasn't so much that the same old became, well...same old. It's that Dave just didn't seem to want to put any effort into making it better.

Trying to light the spark

I tried to put the spark back into our marriage – I really did. I'd book weekend getaways at a secluded resort and bring sexy new lingerie. I remember the night we were staying in a posh hotel seaside and I met him at the door in a sheer back baby doll with a lacy thong. I have to say yes, it did result in sex – he bent me over the couch and slipped it in for about two minutes of heaven. I was so disappointed! I couldn't believe I'd come all that way and spent all that money to get the same unimaginative sh$t I was getting at home. Then I thought that perhaps poor Dave lacked imagination and maybe I could help him with that too. So, I downloaded a bunch of porn flicks of different kinds and tried to watch them with him. And sure, it resulted in sex too – he'd pull my head down to his crotch to suck at him while he watched. I even tried coaching him while they were doing what I wanted him to do on screen – like oral sex on me, different positions, even anal sex, which I fantasized about. I'll never understand why, but Dave never really responded to any of it. It's like he just doesn't really care about sex, or maybe he just couldn't grasp how much it means to me. Me, I can't live without it! But he wasn't a bad guy and so I didn't really know what to do. Luckily, I have a wild cousin who came for a visit.

Learning about the online dating world

Right about the time I was reaching what you'd call a crisis point in my marriage, I got a call from a cousin of mine who was passing through town on the way to catch a flight. The kids were at my in-laws for the weekend and I knew I could use the company. When Sharon got to our place it was like everything changed - the whole house seemed brighter and happier all of a sudden. She had an energy and obvious love of life I envied. Dave went out for a beer with his mates so she and I got out a bottle of wine. After the second glass, I was spilling my heart out to her about all my sexual frustrations and how it had just sapped the fun out of my life. I told her I envied her and asked how she kept her marriage so obviously happy and fulfilling. "You look so happy," I told her, "you and your hubby must have an excellent sex life. How do you do it?" Sharon laughed! That's when she told me her real secret - it wasn't her marriage that was making her glow. It was her younger lovers! I couldn't believe what I was hearing but she told me she'd discovered the online adult dating scene and it was full of younger men looking for sexy older women.

Finding my groove with younger men

I didn't want to leave Dave and split up my marriage, I just needed more sexual fulfillment than he could give me. Sharon moved on her journey the next day, but not before she gave me the url of the adult dating site she was using. It was discrete, safe and easy to use. I set up a profile for free and then an ad where I tried to explain what I was looking for - partners for no strings attached fun. Georgie was one of the first blokes to answer. He's 23 and a track and field runner - all lean, muscular legs and arms. I adore our time together; he can rut for about two hours without stopping, although I'll admit I do tend to lose track of time... Georgie's become a regular friend with benefits that I see once a month or so. Every once in a while I try out somebody new too. Dave... well he's just glad I stopped asking for more, I think. I can honestly say that being one of the many older women dating younger men today has actually saved the marriage and our family home.

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