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How I found my groove by dating younger guys

As one of the many older women dating younger men these days, I can tell you that sexy age gap has saved my sex life. My name's Kylie and although I've been in long term and even live-in relationships at one point or another in my life, by the time I was hitting 40, I was living single... and loving it!

An attractive older woman takes charge at the office

I really enjoy my job as a corporate real estate broker but it can be demanding. It's fast paced and it often means I work odd hours and also travel on occasion. It's always been a little hard to sustain a relationship and as I got older, I realized that my priorities were changing. I wasn't willing to put my own goals on the back burner for the next boyfriend to come along. I had the lifestyle and the career I wanted but there was just one problem: what happened to my sex life?? I work in an industry where there are a fair number of eligible men and I always had helpful girlfriends to set me up, so it's not like I didn't have a social life and I dated quite a bit. Somehow, though, it just wasn't translating into the kind of sex life that I'd always dreamed of – adventurous and fulfilling. Somehow, I was always stuck with unimaginative groping or rough and ready quickie. Where was I going to find that missing piece in my life?

Sexual stagnation - not for me!

I don't want to say all men my own age are boring in bed, but the ones I seemed to cross paths with were! I'm not sure why – maybe they were never taught about what women want when it comes to sex, but I only seemed to come up with blokes who wanted a little oral (them of course, not me,) the missionary position for a few minutes and that was it. It took me a while to realize there was a whole trend of older women dating younger men. About a year ago, my best mate at work renewed my membership to the gym as my 41st birthday present. They had a new personal trainer who really clicked with me and all of a sudden workouts were actually enjoyable and getting results. I didn't really think about it at the time but as my dress size dropped, I started buying stylish outfits and more tailored pieces. I think I got my hair done too! Now I work out of a fairly large office downtown. As a senior broker I have an office of my own but there's a pool of the new hires who have to earn their way out of a shared office space. As time went on, I couldn't help but notice that I was getting more and more attention from men – young men from the junior broker pool. And, it was the cutest younger blokes who seemed to be getting interested. I was so tempted!

Younger men - do I dare?

There was one young man in particular who caught my eye – 24 perhaps, with a mop of blonde hair that fell over his blue eyes... but I knew I couldn't indulge this new fascination for younger men at work. It would have been career suicide! I knew that out there in the real world, older women dating younger men was nothing new or even unusual. But, I worked in a very conservative corporate environment and me dating one of the young blokes in the junior broker pool would have made me the subject of intense gossip and worse. The idea kept hold of my imagination, though, so I thought I'd get together with some of my best mates from outside of work and try out the bar scene. We looked for live music, bars and clubs where we might find both younger and older people so nobody would stand out. It worked to a point. Me and my mates Sheila and Michelle are all in good shape and dress well – we got interested looks and a few phone numbers but nothing much that was concrete. After a while Sheila and Michelle got tired of the chase and I was left to myself again, sure I was headed for more sexual disappointment when I stumbled across a website one day while I was surfing the net. It was an adult dating website and there were loads of pics of anyone and everyone – but in particular, many of older women having fun with younger men. I checked out some of the ads and sure enough, there seemed to be plenty of younger men actually looking for women just like me. What did I have to lose?

My first date with a younger man

I set up my free profile and posted my first ad. “Fit, fabulous and 41 – looking for sexy younger men who are looking for adventurous fun!” I had an out of town meeting that day and I was exhausted by the time it was done, so it wasn't until two days later that I checked for responses. I couldn't believe my eyes! My message box was full with answers from hot young blokes who were eager to tell me all about what they could do for me. I had such a great time looking at the pictures they sent and reading their replies that I had to start playing with myself! LOL The next day, I set up a meeting with Ravi – he was caramel-skinned and had adorable dark eyes with long lashes and he was just as cute in person as he was in his pics. We met for a discrete drink at a hotel bar across town but it was clear we clicked right away. He was fondling my thigh, his lips nuzzling my neck, before we had the chance to finish that first martini. We headed upstairs to the room I'd taken out for the evening and started kissing in the elevator – in fact, we missed our floor the first time going by because we were just having too much fun! Once we finally got to the room, he stripped me layer by layer at the door, folding my suit and blouse carefully on the chair. Then I led him to the bed and did the same for him. Let's just say that caramel skin tastes just as good as it looks and that in terms of technique, I have to take off my hat to the younger generation. Ravi was extremely talented with his tongue! Older women dating younger men is a trend that's here to stay and I love it!

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